Thursday, October 14, 2010

The Winning Streak I'm Ashamed Of

I love winning arguments.  I think that's normal...I mean, who on earth likes to lose arguments?  In comes work.  "The customer" (in my case, student) "is always right".  Isn't that the motto of countless businesses?  Well I think it stinks!  Especially when they are obviously soooo wrong!  But since I'm the employee, I have to put a smile on my face and apologize.  Here is the scenario:

Not so smart question asked by anonymous
Not so smart answer returned by me.  (I can thank my dad for that particular quality that he passed down to me haha, I love you dad!). 

The response that followed included things like:
"As your Sister in Christ", (this was the second worse thing that was said...I mean really, they pulled out the God-card prior to yelling at me email style???)
"condescending", "disrespectful", "violated", "disappointed"
and the worse..."I do forgive you, completely".

You are probably thinking, "What on earth did she write to warrant such a strong response?".  I am still asking that question myself my friends.

I struggled with my response to this email for about a day.  I prayed so hard that God would give me the words to write back but every attempt still contained me...I was still defensive, still sarcastic, still trying to prove that I was right (as their Sister in Christ, of course).  I consulted several co-workers, my supervisor and finally my boss, to get some wisdom.  And you know what I did in the end?  Despite every bone in my body wanting to justify myself, I just apologized.  No defense, no sarcasm...I waved a white flag of surrender.  The crazy part about it is that when I hit the send button, I felt good.  I had no regret about anything I said, I knew I did the right thing.

Am I still hoping that she'll apologize for her accusations?  In a way, I am...especially since I replied so nicely :).  But all this makes me wonder how Jesus felt about his accusers.  He was wrongly accused and his response was silence.  He was beaten and crucified and his response was "Forgive them".  He had all of the power in the universe at his command and he chose to die.  He could have easily proven to each person there that he was indeed the Messiah but he instead gave us the most beautiful gift...free will.  He gave it to Adam and Eve in the garden and they chose sin and he gave it to His accusers and they chose to kill their Creator.  I wonder sometimes if God knew before he even created them, the choices Adam and Eve would make and therefore knew that he would have to send Jesus to die for us.  Can you imagine the love it took for him to create us anyways?  I guess that's John 3:16 right there.  My desire to win an argument is in such contrast to God's love for me, it makes me cringe just thinking about it.  Can I be petty sometimes, absolutely.  Thankfully, there is forgiveness and thankfully there is always love.  Today is a #4 day for me.  What # are you today?


A PENCIL MAKER TOLD THE PENCIL 5 IMPORTANT LESSONS JUST BEFORE PUTTING IT IN THE BOX :



1.) EVERYTHING YOU DO WILL ALWAYS LEAVE A MARK.



2.) YOU CAN ALWAYS CORRECT THE MISTAKES YOU MAKE.



3.) WHAT IS IMPORTANT IS WHAT IS INSIDE OF YOU.



4.) IN LIFE, YOU WILL UNDERGO PAINFUL SHARPENING,

    WHICH WILL ONLY MAKE YOU BETTER.



5.) TO BE THE BEST PENCIL, YOU MUST ALLOW YOURSELF 

    TO BE HELD AND GUIDED BY THE HAND THAT HOLDS YOU.


 




                    

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